this quick "Mechanic's Tool" to find out.
If you start to cross a street and see
a car coming what do you do? Your mind identifies the
oncoming car and shouts "DANGER," and you
get back on the curb to avoid being hit. The "danger"
from the car was real and could have resulted in actual
The one thing you won't do is stand
in the street with the car coming at you saying to yourself,
"Oh my, there is a car coming. I'm so afraid. What
happens if it hits me? My husband won't care. My children
probably won't care. I might be killed, I'll be late
for work, etc."
of our day is spent in just such a time-wasting mental
conversations about things that are worrisome, but not
actually dangerous. Worry is a process of our imagination.
Our brain can't tell the difference between real and
imaginary so our body reacts the same and we feel the
same as if we were in real danger. This is also the
cause of many of our serious health problems
you begin to feel afraid, look around and ask, "Where's
the car? Where's the danger?" If there isn't any
"REAL" danger you can rest assured your feelings
are simply the result of the "soap opera"
conversation you are having with yourself.
waste your precious energy. Change your mental channel
from the "soap opera" to the travel channel,
the shopping channel, or the cooking channel. Think
about anything different and you will feel better soon.
If there is real danger, either run
for your life or fight like your life depends on it.
It may well.